It can be difficult to acknowledge that you or someone you care about is in an abusive relationship. Domestic violence does not always look the same, but there are some warning signs that indicate an unhealthy relationship. Take a few minutes to answer these questions:
- Does your partner insult you in public or in front of your children?
- Does your partner treat you like you are stupid or call you names?
- Does your partner try to control what you do?
- Does your partner act really jealous of your friends or family?
- Does your partner blame you for his/her violence?
- Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you or him/herself if the relationship ends?
If you answered “yes” to one or more of these questions, it is important for you to get help. Call our Hotline.
The risk of sexual assault cannot be reduced to zero and even if you do not recognize these as warning signs, sexual assault is not your fault. Rapists are responsible for their actions, you are not. Watch out for people that:
- Ignore your personal space boundaries, stand or walk too close, or touch you without permission.
- Push you to drink beyond your tolerance level or wait to make a sexual advance when you are intoxicated. Alcohol is the #1 date rape drug.
- Use hostile or possessive language and do what they want regardless of what you want. For example, by making all the decisions about what you both will do.
- Try to make you feel guilty, or accuse you of being “uptight” if you resist their sexual overtures.
- Have wrong or unrealistic ideas about women (for example, “women are meant to serve men”). Such perpetrators are not likely to take objections to sex seriously.